If you have ever had to keep putting a Band-Aid on the same wound for a few days in a row, you may have experience what I mean. Sometimes Band-Aids hurt more. They hurt more than the injury they were created to cover. After using a Band-Aid over and over, eventually the skin that the Band-Aid is attached to gets irritated. Here’s the problem: when you rip a Band-Aid off of the same spot multiple times, the skin that was previously fine actually gets pulled at by the repetitive applications of Band-Aid adhesive. AKA the sticky part pulls your good skin off.
The very item that you put in place to protect you and help you heal is now working against you. It inflicts more damage. It causes pain. It creates more wounds.
Maybe you created a ten-year plan to help you reach your goals and improve your life, but maybe it backfired and now highlights your ten years of failure and disappointment. Or maybe you tried to cover up old pain and pretend it never happened, but now you have a festering sore of bitterness that is worse than the day it started. Maybe you tried to hold all the pieces of your life together like a perfectionist until one day your last bit of emotional strength tore and you realized that by isolating yourself from others’ help you now have no around to help you pick up the pieces. Maybe you have protected yourself from all that could go wrong until now the only soundtrack in your mind is fear.
Maybe, like me, you are a little bit like all of these. You have put on the Band-Aids of planning ahead, ignoring pain, being a perfectionist, and acting too cautiously. We put on these Band-Aids because, in the moment, we think we are going to fix our problems. We cover up big injuries with little bits of adhesive and gauze. We swaddle the issues of being a control freak, experiencing emotional pain, seeking our worth in accomplishments, and being wary of the world. We cover all these problems in one sticky bandage and wait for the scars to heal themselves.
We have forgotten one major side effect: the Band-Aid itself will eventually hurt more. The sticky side tabs will irritate the skin and peel off healthy skin cells. Just like with physical wounds, emotional wounds cannot be left covered and ignored. They must be dealt with directly and intentionally.
How do we do that? Especially with deep-rooted problems like a need for self-worth and validation from others? Or long-standing emotional scars that have been inflicted on us by another person? How do we heal an open wound without irritating everything around it?
To answer these questions, I give you the only answer that I have ever found. The only remedy that actually works. The only one who heals without leaving scars: Jesus.
Let these verses convince you and work in your heart. Let the Holy Spirit speak through the Word of God that timelessly cures all wounds. I am done talking, just soak in this:
Isaiah 43:1-2 “But now, thus says the LORD, your Creator, O Jacob, and He who formed you, O Israel, ‘Do not fear, for I have redeemed you; I have called you by name; you are Mine! When you pass through the waters, I will be with you; and through the rivers, they will not overflow you. When you walk through the fire, you will not be scorched, nor will the flame burn you.’”
Psalm 34:18-20, 22 “The LORD is near to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit. Many are the afflictions of the righteous, But the LORD delivers him out of them all. He keeps all his bones, not one of them is broken… The LORD redeems the soul of His servants, and none of those who take refuge in Him will be condemned.”
Psalm 71:20-21 “You who have shown me many troubles and distresses will revive me again, and will bring me up again from the depths of the earth. May You increase my greatness and turn to comfort me.”
Psalm 147:2-6 “The LORD builds up Jerusalem; He gathers the outcasts of Israel. He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds. He counts the number of the stars; He gives names to all of them. Great is our Lord and abundant in strength; His understanding is infinite. The LORD supports the afflicted; He brings down the wicked to the ground.”
Matthew 11:28-30 “Come to Me, all who are weary and heavy-laden, and I will give you rest. Take My yoke upon you and learn from Me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For My yoke is easy and My burden is light.”
2 Corinthians 4:7-11 “But we have this treasure in earthen vessels, so that the surpassing greatness of the power will be of God and not from ourselves; we are afflicted in every way, but not crushed; perplexed, but not despairing; persecuted, but not forsaken; struck down, but not destroyed; always carrying about in the body the dying of Jesus, so that the life of Jesus also may be manifested in our body. For we who live are constantly being delivered over to death for Jesus’ sake, so that the life of Jesus also may be manifested in our mortal flesh.”
Romans 8:37-39 “But in all these things we overwhelmingly conquer through Him who loved us. For I am convinced that neither death, nor life, nor angels, nor principalities, nor things present, nor things to come, nor powers, nor height, nor depth, nor any created thing, will be able to separate us from the love of God, which is in Christ Jesus our Lord.”